A couple of months ago, I posted about Emily Post’s Manners: One to Three Years Old. Since my daughters are now in the next age range of Emily Post’s Manners: Three to Five Years, I’ve been reading up on what I need to be teaching them. I thought y’all would be interested in reading it, too. And please pass it on!
Emily Post’s Manners
Three to Five Years
(excerpt from Emily Post’s Etiquette: Manners for a New World)
Kids in this age group are developing manual dexterity and confidence as they take on increasingly complex skills. They interact with peers and adults in structured play groups or daycare.
Magic words. This is the time children begin to “write” their own thank-you notes: A child tells his parent what he likes about the gift, the parent writes the short thank-you note, and the child adds a drawing or “Signs” his name. Children this age can also be expected to say “thank you.” They’ll need reminding often, but don’t give up. By the time they’re four or five, they can also add “excuse me” and “you’re welcome” to their list of magic words.
Conversation. At this age children are learning the fundamental skills of good conversation. You can help by reminding them to:
– Speak slowly and clearly.
– Not interrupt unless it’s an emergency.
– Take turns talking.
Phones. While some three-five-year-olds have a difficult time on the phone, it’s time for them to try at least a simple hello. At first it’s helpful if the person on the other end is someone they see and speak to often – Dad or Grandma, for example. When they are only three or four, kids may simply look at the phone and refuse to say anything. Encourage them to say hello but if they don’t, gently take back the phone and try again another time. Webcams and VolP (Voice over Internet Protocol) may make phone visits easier and more user-friendly.
This is a building time – a perfect time to teach manners at the table. Children this age can:
– Add forks to their repertoire of eating utensils.
– Put napkins on their laps (definitely by the time they are five).
– Chew with their mouths closed.
– Participate in table conversations, so be sure to include them.
– Ask to be excused when finished eating, especially if others plan to stay longer at the table.
– Help with simple table setting and clearing.
Out and About
At this age children are with you throughout the day as you do your errands and daily activities.
– Encourage them to help load the grocery cart and unload small bags at home.
– Lunch at a fast-food restaurant provides the opportunity to work on basic line manners, early restaurant manners, and clearing the table.
– This is a time to reinforce basic manners with service people in a variety of venues – shops, restaurants, banks or post office – and with people who provide service to you at home.
When out and about, you can help your child learn from what he observes. Point out and talk about examples of good manners and bad behavior. “That lady was so nice to the checkout person when she said “Thank you” or (out of earshot) “Did you notice how that man let the door slam on the woman behind him?”
It’s a rainy day here, today. So thankful I got the girls into school this morning, before the bottom fell out! I wear my tried and true Hunters every time it rains, but of course, now I’m wanting a new color. I’ve had a pair of black ones for about three years now, and I love that they go with everything, but on the days when I want a pop of fun color, I’ve been leaning towards these…
And now that I’m inside, I’m wanting these…on such a gloomy day…
Does anyone own these? Should I size up or down?
What do you wear on your feet, on rainy days? I’ve tried L.L. Bean’s Duck Boots, but they just don’t work for me, like my Hunters do.
Hope y’all have a great start to your week!
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